Comments on: Do you think that parenting styles directly contribute to adolescent delinquency? http://parentbase.com/2006/10/21/do-you-think-that-parenting-styles-directly-contribute-to-adolescent-delinquency/ Parenting Tips, Questions, Articles and Advice Thu, 02 Feb 2012 07:40:31 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.6 hourly 1 By: ¤[I]chi™¤ http://parentbase.com/2006/10/21/do-you-think-that-parenting-styles-directly-contribute-to-adolescent-delinquency/comment-page-1/#comment-174 ¤[I]chi™¤ Mon, 13 Nov 2006 00:48:31 +0000 http://parentbase.com/2006/10/21/do-you-think-that-parenting-styles-directly-contribute-to-adolescent-delinquency/#comment-174 Yes because what kids are exposed to at a young age,it's often imprinted in their minds. Yes because what kids are exposed to at a young age,it’s often imprinted in their minds.

]]> By: grandmajane5 http://parentbase.com/2006/10/21/do-you-think-that-parenting-styles-directly-contribute-to-adolescent-delinquency/comment-page-1/#comment-173 grandmajane5 Sat, 11 Nov 2006 14:19:24 +0000 http://parentbase.com/2006/10/21/do-you-think-that-parenting-styles-directly-contribute-to-adolescent-delinquency/#comment-173 In my opinion Mothers who stay home raise more confident well rounded children. I stayed home with mine and cared for about 50 others during the last 26 years. In my opinion Mothers who stay home raise more confident well rounded children. I stayed home with mine and cared for about 50 others during the last 26 years.

]]> By: Mom of 2 http://parentbase.com/2006/10/21/do-you-think-that-parenting-styles-directly-contribute-to-adolescent-delinquency/comment-page-1/#comment-172 Mom of 2 Thu, 09 Nov 2006 17:54:00 +0000 http://parentbase.com/2006/10/21/do-you-think-that-parenting-styles-directly-contribute-to-adolescent-delinquency/#comment-172 Absolutely. Any household without rules, guidelines and dare I say punishment is a household controlled and ruled by the children. Hence, no peace, no harmony and a greater chance for divorce as well as criminal behavior. Even though kids say they would be happy if they were allowed to do whatever they wanted and get whatever they want, that is really not true. Kids know they are loved when their parents set rules and guidelines. It makes them feel safe and secure. Kids who act out are those who don't feel secure. Another major problem I see in this world is those who get divorced and then overcompensate their kids with things or allow rules to be bent and broken because of the parent's guilt over the divorce. I am 42, been married 9 years, have two kids (daughter 7 and son 6). We went through some really tough stuff with our son when he was about 3 years old. Putting him in Taekwondo made a huge difference in his ability to control his temper. Males in particular go through a stage where they are afraid to let their mom get too far from sight and yet there is that male instinct to be strong, independant, etc. So that conflict results in confusion in their minds and they will sometimes act out violently when they are frustrated. Having an older sister who loves to tease him didn't help either. One major decision my husband and I have made is we will not allow our daughter to become the type of girl who jerks a male's feelings around. Playing that come here-go away attitude. Some parents think it is cute. We find it disgusting because quite frankly if more parents put a stop to it, there wouldn't be so many questions on Yahoo asking what am I to think when they do this? Its a power play and any decent female should never act that way. One other piece of advice from a mother of a little girl. DO NOT DRESS her in adult styled clothes. Little girls should not be wearing clothes that are "sexy". It is only the mother living through her daughter and that is sick. Hope this was helpful. Absolutely. Any household without rules, guidelines and dare I say punishment is a household controlled and ruled by the children. Hence, no peace, no harmony and a greater chance for divorce as well as criminal behavior. Even though kids say they would be happy if they were allowed to do whatever they wanted and get whatever they want, that is really not true. Kids know they are loved when their parents set rules and guidelines. It makes them feel safe and secure. Kids who act out are those who don’t feel secure.

Another major problem I see in this world is those who get divorced and then overcompensate their kids with things or allow rules to be bent and broken because of the parent’s guilt over the divorce.

I am 42, been married 9 years, have two kids (daughter 7 and son 6). We went through some really tough stuff with our son when he was about 3 years old. Putting him in Taekwondo made a huge difference in his ability to control his temper. Males in particular go through a stage where they are afraid to let their mom get too far from sight and yet there is that male instinct to be strong, independant, etc. So that conflict results in confusion in their minds and they will sometimes act out violently when they are frustrated. Having an older sister who loves to tease him didn’t help either.

One major decision my husband and I have made is we will not allow our daughter to become the type of girl who jerks a male’s feelings around. Playing that come here-go away attitude. Some parents think it is cute. We find it disgusting because quite frankly if more parents put a stop to it, there wouldn’t be so many questions on Yahoo asking what am I to think when they do this? Its a power play and any decent female should never act that way.

One other piece of advice from a mother of a little girl. DO NOT DRESS her in adult styled clothes. Little girls should not be wearing clothes that are “sexy”. It is only the mother living through her daughter and that is sick.

Hope this was helpful.

]]> By: Nan74 http://parentbase.com/2006/10/21/do-you-think-that-parenting-styles-directly-contribute-to-adolescent-delinquency/comment-page-1/#comment-171 Nan74 Mon, 06 Nov 2006 17:16:24 +0000 http://parentbase.com/2006/10/21/do-you-think-that-parenting-styles-directly-contribute-to-adolescent-delinquency/#comment-171 I have 2 sons, one is 24 and just graduated college. The other is 21 and will graduate college in December. I was a stay at home mom and involved in their lives for many years. (school activities, baseball and basketball leagues etc.) The only trouble I have ever had with the oldest is that he and a friend egged a neighbors house once. They got caught that night and cleaned it all up and apologized. Since then, he has never been in any kind of trouble that I know of. On the last day of high school for my younger son, I found a beer bottle in his backpack. I kept my mouth shut, and here 3 years later he is graduating from UT's business school with a job already offered. I don't know if I am just lucky or that someone being home made a difference. My guess would be the latter. I am 51 yrs. Good luck with your paper! I have 2 sons, one is 24 and just graduated college. The other is 21 and will graduate college in December. I was a stay at home mom and involved in their lives for many years.
(school activities, baseball and basketball leagues etc.)
The only trouble I have ever had with the oldest is that he and a friend egged a neighbors house once. They got caught that night and cleaned it all up and apologized. Since then, he has never been in any kind of trouble that I know of.
On the last day of high school for my younger son, I found a beer bottle in his backpack. I kept my mouth shut, and here 3 years later he is graduating from UT’s business school with a job already offered.
I don’t know if I am just lucky or that someone being home made a difference. My guess would be the latter.
I am 51 yrs. Good luck with your paper!

]]> By: jjohnny65 http://parentbase.com/2006/10/21/do-you-think-that-parenting-styles-directly-contribute-to-adolescent-delinquency/comment-page-1/#comment-170 jjohnny65 Sun, 05 Nov 2006 12:13:37 +0000 http://parentbase.com/2006/10/21/do-you-think-that-parenting-styles-directly-contribute-to-adolescent-delinquency/#comment-170 Yeah, dad was a drunk so I grew up to be just like him. But not now I finally sobered up 4 years ago. I don't talk to dad much anymore we don't have much in common. Yeah, dad was a drunk so I grew up to be just like him. But not now I finally sobered up 4 years ago. I don’t talk to dad much anymore we don’t have much in common.

]]> By: tnsupermomwhit http://parentbase.com/2006/10/21/do-you-think-that-parenting-styles-directly-contribute-to-adolescent-delinquency/comment-page-1/#comment-169 tnsupermomwhit Thu, 02 Nov 2006 06:17:13 +0000 http://parentbase.com/2006/10/21/do-you-think-that-parenting-styles-directly-contribute-to-adolescent-delinquency/#comment-169 yes i do agree with that,i believe it starts at home,i have seen it many of times,and some parents don't see it,they don't want to think that is it their fault,but,when a parent is depressed,a child sees that,and soon the child is depressed, drinking is another big thing parents do infront of their kids,smoking is another,and i think they all start at home yes i do agree with that,i believe it starts at home,i have seen it many of times,and some parents don’t see it,they don’t want to think that is it their fault,but,when a parent is depressed,a child sees that,and soon the child is depressed, drinking is another big thing parents do infront of their kids,smoking is another,and i think they all start at home

]]> By: SexRexRx http://parentbase.com/2006/10/21/do-you-think-that-parenting-styles-directly-contribute-to-adolescent-delinquency/comment-page-1/#comment-168 SexRexRx Wed, 01 Nov 2006 22:20:49 +0000 http://parentbase.com/2006/10/21/do-you-think-that-parenting-styles-directly-contribute-to-adolescent-delinquency/#comment-168 Responsible parenting or the lack of it is essentially instrumental in the final social, moral, spiritual, psychological and operative outcome of us all. Delinquency is but one of the many negative aspects of parenting gone wrong. Chauvanistic attitudes in men, dysfunctional social behavior, verbal, physical, moral and psychological abuse in marriage, addictions, aberrant sexual tendencies, and hostility are just a few more of the adverse effects of deficient parenting. There are few things in life that can reverse the positive effects of responsible parenting but suffice it to day that the odds for success are in your favor if you were the recipient of conscientious and responsible rearing. I am the father of two wonderful, intelligent, hard working, centered and very well adjusted teenage girls and my wife and I take a great part of the credit for having raised them in a real, loving, disciplined, functioonal, conscientious and respectful manner. Even though they are constantly exposed to many of the dangers that consume less fortunate kids, they remain steadfast in following the principles that have gotten them this far. Parents, either through ignorance, apathy, lack of direction, or as a reflection of their own misfortune or demons, educate their children to fail without being deliberate. There is no escuse in these modern times to not educate your children proactively and effectively. There is so much information for this precise rubrick that all future generations should be less negative and a lot more functional in society! Responsible parenting or the lack of it is essentially instrumental in the final social, moral, spiritual, psychological and operative outcome of us all.

Delinquency is but one of the many negative aspects of parenting gone wrong. Chauvanistic attitudes in men, dysfunctional social behavior, verbal, physical, moral and psychological abuse in marriage, addictions, aberrant sexual tendencies, and hostility are just a few more of the adverse effects of deficient parenting. There are few things in life that can reverse the positive effects of responsible parenting but suffice it to day that the odds for success are in your favor if you were the recipient of conscientious and responsible rearing.

I am the father of two wonderful, intelligent, hard working, centered and very well adjusted teenage girls and my wife and I take a great part of the credit for having raised them in a real, loving, disciplined, functioonal, conscientious and respectful manner. Even though they are constantly exposed to many of the dangers that consume less fortunate kids, they remain steadfast in following the principles that have gotten them this far.

Parents, either through ignorance, apathy, lack of direction, or as a reflection of their own misfortune or demons, educate their children to fail without being deliberate. There is no escuse in these modern times to not educate your children proactively and effectively. There is so much information for this precise rubrick that all future generations should be less negative and a lot more functional in society!

]]> By: teresathegreat http://parentbase.com/2006/10/21/do-you-think-that-parenting-styles-directly-contribute-to-adolescent-delinquency/comment-page-1/#comment-167 teresathegreat Mon, 30 Oct 2006 17:08:35 +0000 http://parentbase.com/2006/10/21/do-you-think-that-parenting-styles-directly-contribute-to-adolescent-delinquency/#comment-167 I think it definitely has an influence, but isn't the only or even the major factor. A child's life is influenced by so many things - parents, siblings, friends, school, the media, their own genetics and personality - that you can't look at a delinquent kid and point to just one factor as the cause. Look at my brother and me - he is only a few years older than I am. We were raised in the same house by the same parents, went to the same schools, and were exposed to the same media influences. Our parents treated us pretty much the same. Yet in our teenage years (and even since) we were so different that many teachers and schoolmates didn't even know we were related - I was the Daria/Hermione bookish good-girl type, and he was the Jim Morrison, rock band, illicit substances, long-hair type. So while background and parenting style can be a big influence, it isn't conclusive. I think it definitely has an influence, but isn’t the only or even the major factor. A child’s life is influenced by so many things – parents, siblings, friends, school, the media, their own genetics and personality – that you can’t look at a delinquent kid and point to just one factor as the cause.

Look at my brother and me – he is only a few years older than I am. We were raised in the same house by the same parents, went to the same schools, and were exposed to the same media influences. Our parents treated us pretty much the same.
Yet in our teenage years (and even since) we were so different that many teachers and schoolmates didn’t even know we were related – I was the Daria/Hermione bookish good-girl type, and he was the Jim Morrison, rock band, illicit substances, long-hair type.

So while background and parenting style can be a big influence, it isn’t conclusive.

]]> By: Kim Loan http://parentbase.com/2006/10/21/do-you-think-that-parenting-styles-directly-contribute-to-adolescent-delinquency/comment-page-1/#comment-166 Kim Loan Mon, 30 Oct 2006 02:13:13 +0000 http://parentbase.com/2006/10/21/do-you-think-that-parenting-styles-directly-contribute-to-adolescent-delinquency/#comment-166 hi. i'm a fairly new mom. i'm 21 with a 17 month old daughter. she's great. but my story is about her nanny (which is her aunt). she's a really good kid. she really is. she's 15 and does awesome in school. she's going to the 10th grade (she'll be a sophomore) and for her freshman year she was chosen to be a future valedictorian if she continues on the same path. her parents (my in laws) got married at a fairly young age. her two older brothers were horrible as teens. i think maybe when her parents were younger, they didn't really know how to raise their sons. and they gotten wiser as the third child came along. i'm not sure. its what i observed over the years. my fiance grew up fine but he sure gave his parents hell growing up. i think certain parenting styles directly contribute to adolescent delinquency. i think its half the parenting styles and half the child. growing up i was very rebellious. now that i know that i need to appreciate all that my mom has done for me, i don't take anything for granted. being a mother now, i want to do what i feel is best for my daughter. and hopefully she sees things the way i do. hope i helped... good luck.. hi. i’m a fairly new mom. i’m 21 with a 17 month old daughter. she’s great. but my story is about her nanny (which is her aunt). she’s a really good kid. she really is. she’s 15 and does awesome in school. she’s going to the 10th grade (she’ll be a sophomore) and for her freshman year she was chosen to be a future valedictorian if she continues on the same path. her parents (my in laws) got married at a fairly young age. her two older brothers were horrible as teens. i think maybe when her parents were younger, they didn’t really know how to raise their sons. and they gotten wiser as the third child came along. i’m not sure. its what i observed over the years. my fiance grew up fine but he sure gave his parents hell growing up. i think certain parenting styles directly contribute to adolescent delinquency. i think its half the parenting styles and half the child. growing up i was very rebellious. now that i know that i need to appreciate all that my mom has done for me, i don’t take anything for granted. being a mother now, i want to do what i feel is best for my daughter. and hopefully she sees things the way i do. hope i helped… good luck..

]]> By: Bingo http://parentbase.com/2006/10/21/do-you-think-that-parenting-styles-directly-contribute-to-adolescent-delinquency/comment-page-1/#comment-165 Bingo Fri, 27 Oct 2006 06:47:21 +0000 http://parentbase.com/2006/10/21/do-you-think-that-parenting-styles-directly-contribute-to-adolescent-delinquency/#comment-165 I feel if parents stay in with what their kids are doing and set good morals these kids seem to do better and the parents don't need to be stay at home parenting, parents that just let their kids loose to figure out life on their own usually have problems and get caught up in peer pressure things. And parents that keep to tight of a hold on their kids are in for allot of trouble, once these kids get out from under the heavy thumb they usually go a little wild and get into allot of trouble. I feel if parents stay in with what their kids are doing and set good morals these kids seem to do better and the parents don’t need to be stay at home parenting, parents that just let their kids loose to figure out life on their own usually have problems and get caught up in peer pressure things.
And parents that keep to tight of a hold on their kids are in for allot of trouble, once these kids get out from under the heavy thumb they usually go a little wild and get into allot of trouble.

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