Comments on: I hate parenting.does anyone else feel the same? Need help?

By: corster8686

corster8686 — Thu, 28 Dec 2006 16:35:39 +0000

Wow. I think parenting can be frustrating, yes. There are days when I feel all I get done is chasing the kids, picking up after the kids, feeding the kids, disciplining the kids, bathing the kids, blah blah blah. But at night, when I tuck them in, and they kiss and hug me and tell me they love me, I smile and know that I’ve done a good job and look forward to doing it again tomorrow. Your children love you unconditionally as you do them. You need to be sure you are taking care of yourself or you will self-destruct. Take a nice hot bubble bath after putting them in bed. Read a novel to help you escape. Find a sitter and get a massage, get your hair done, go to the mall or out to dinner! You need you time also. I’ll bet that you don’t actually resent your girls, they are just where your frustrations are directed. Your job as their mother is to make them feel safe, loved and to nurture them. They are innocent in all of this and you need to learn how to vent without feeling resentful of them. Have you tried speaking to a counselor? How about a priest? It may help to have someone who is able to help you see where your anger and resentment is actually coming from. You mentioned you are adopted…did you have a good childhood? Maybe your adoptive parents didn’t handle things so well and now you’re questioning your purpose or abilities as a parent yourself?? Find someone to help you answer these questions and you’ll do fine!! Good luck!

By: at a loss

at a loss — Tue, 26 Dec 2006 11:49:09 +0000

Ok here is my two sense.. I dont think that it is parenting that you “hate”. I think that that is just the outlet. It sounds to me like you are just very unhappy with your life right now. No one can be a good parent when they are unahppy with themselves. The tip off to me is the resentment of the fathers. They are living a relatively easy life. It is very easy to be a part time parent (assuming they are in the girls lives). It is an entirely different story when you are the full time parent. First off I think you need to take some time for yourself. Regroup.. Maybe a relative can take the girls for a week or so .. this way you can do absoulutey nothing if thats what you choose to do.. I would also look into some kind of counseling for yourself. There is nothing wrong having an impartial someone help you come to terms with yourself. Everyone who has kids feels frustated at one time or another. That makes you human. Start taking care of yourself mentally and the joys of parenthood you hear so much about will be yours too. Best of Luck to You!!!

By: Dad

Dad — Sun, 24 Dec 2006 20:58:03 +0000

I hated it once too, now i would do just about anything to be a real Dad again.

By: jlb

jlb — Sat, 23 Dec 2006 02:44:37 +0000

Sabel gave you great advice, definitely listen to her. I am sorry but I can not relate with what you are feeling. It is something that you definitely need to resolve. For both your sake and your daughters. Good luck.

By: sxyprincezz4u

sxyprincezz4u — Wed, 20 Dec 2006 00:24:06 +0000

Wow, is it really that bad? Dang, I’ma about to be a mommy, I hope it’s not like this for me!

Well you could have a relative take care of them while you take a vacation for awhile, that way once you come back you’ll miss them, you wont even realize the problems! Good Luck!

By: the_silverfoxx

the_silverfoxx — Tue, 19 Dec 2006 18:30:36 +0000

seems to me you resent there father for his sctions just rember this you as well as your.ex. has a well oblugation to these children they did not ask to be born /

By: kittee

kittee — Mon, 18 Dec 2006 00:39:36 +0000

You don’t hate i think thats a very strong word,but you may feel very frustrated do to being a single mother,but then Im married and i feel like Im the only parent at home.Just take them to the park as a reward for being good.Like a surprize,but don’t give up love them because they are your kids and just because your getting old don’t let yourself get old be spunky with your kids.not an old fart.KIDS JUST WANT TO HAVE FUN!!!!

By: Sabel

Sabel — Sun, 17 Dec 2006 10:38:03 +0000

You have 3 options…

#1: Learn that it is not your kids fault that, you or their fathers made some mistakes… The past is the past, love your kids for now.

#2: Send them to live with a relative, or put them up for adoption if you REALLY can not deal. (I would go to councelling before you go this route)

#3: End up one of those mothers on the news… (you do NOT want this, and niether do I.)

Get some help, or put the kids and yourself in a better environment.