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are there parents out there that wish that they could go back and change all the bad parenting?
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I have 6 girls & 2 Boys some say that I was a good parent that ha to many children to raise by myself and that there were time when I would talk horrible to them but they are glade that I am their mom and then there some of my children that daily throw my bad parenting in my face… If it was not for my faith in my forgiveness from Jehovah God… don’t ask why I had so many children they are here and suffering from bad parenting.. I am watching them pass on this bad parenting to their children so I for one do not blame the system for the condition of children I blame bad parenting… I have 4 of my children that we look at each other with respect and love for some reason these 4 children say that yes i was bad but they see that we have over come a lot and we need to thank god for each other and we have gotten thru together this does not help the other 4 children.. :Yes I did have too many children but they are here and they can’t be put back I love my children no matter what
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Hi wow well done for raising all those kids on your own. That cant have been easy!!
I wouldnt take back any bad parenting, you have to make mistakes and learn from them in order to become a better parent. I think you would be able to advise many a parent on what to do and not to do, you must have so much valuable experience!!!
Your kids are bound to be divided over how you were as a parent, what is good for one, may not have been good for the other and you were doing it by yourself!! And dont think you had too many kids either!! Many a woman would have given them up!!! At least you stuck to it.
when i do something that later i think was not a wise parental decision, i admit it to my children and apologize, that way we can put it behind us, and it shows them i am human and when they make mistakes they are comfortable in coming to me, i sympathize with how you are feeling but you need to let yourself off the hook, apologize, ask them to forgive you, and then let it go you could also tell them it hurts to see them making the same mistakes , explain how hard it has been for you to live with the guilt, maybe it will help, good luck
We have all done and said things we wish we had not, but I don’t really wish to go back and change anything only because everything we do is a learning experience for both us and our children. When I feel I may have been unjustified in my decisions or the way I handle a situation, I always make sure to take a few minutes, calm down and then apologize to my kids even to those who may not have been “in trouble”. This gives children a sense of being real and human and knowing even mommies and daddies make mistakes and that it is important to recognize and acknowledge when we trangress against another. To your children who may give you a hard time just say to them, “I appreciate that you are comfortable enough with our relationship to tell me how you feel about my past trangressions against you. I greatly apologize for hurting you and I do not mean to justufy my behavior but I can only tell you that I did the best I could at the time with the information and knowledge I had at the time and I am constantly on the path of bettering myself and my parenting for our family. I love you and hope you will give us all a chance and follow my lead with your own children to ensure they have a better life.” I commend you for trying to be a better parent, but quit being so hard on yourself. You did the best you could and if the kids can’t see that then you can’t take that on yourself. If you didn’t see the need for change it would be different but you have so give yourself a break. You have/are raising 8 children and they turned out well enough to tell you their minds. Someday they will all see the change in you and thank you. And if they don’t concentrate on being the best mom you can to those who will let you. Best of luck to your family!
Hey bay, you know what I have 3 kids and have had some real struggles in my parenting experience, and there were alot of times when I really felt like a terrible parent or WOW I have really made some bad mistakes. But it has been those lessons that has helped me become a better mom, now, not that I am a perfect mom, because I am far from it, but it is each of those bad parenting moments, that shows me what I can try to do different next time. I know it is hard raising kids, and it is even harder if your own parents werent very good at parenting either. Which let me just say that my mom needed a whole lot of work, in fact my whole family is very dysfunctional. However I have committed my life to the LOrd now and that is helping me become a better mom and learn to forgive myself for alot of my past mistakes. So try not to be so hard on yourself, and certainly don’t let your kids be so hard on you either. Apologize to them and let them know that you love them, and did the best you could with what you were given, and that you are trying to change your ways. No matter what God loves you and forgives you and that is all that matters. Good luck to you and God Bless
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