Experiencing Life On Your Own

Posted by Janice Wallace on May 24, 2010
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Many people are very afraid of being alone. They think about this, and they realize that most people at some point are alone for a period of time. This is the scariest thing that being alone is likely. They say that we come into this world by ourselves, and that we go out the same way. Unfortunately, the knowledge of being by our lonesome as older people is a scary thought to most of us.

People can find themselves alone for a period of time because of a number of circumstances, including but not limited to the death of a spouse, a child moving out, a breakup of a relationship. These are all difficult situations. They are things we can overcome, however. To make life fuller and richer, it is critical to get to where you can enjoy things without needing another person to enjoy it with.

This is easier said than done. It is hard to learn to appreciate activities for the activities themselves instead of relying on someone being there. When we depend on others for our enjoyment, we are not independent. We should not have to have someone with us to enjoy an activity or to think of the story of what we have done.

If you have a story to tell, but no one to tell it to, the story is useless and empty. Thinking this way is dangerous, and also isolating because people become desperate to have someone to share things with.

Now, it is important to be able to share with other people. We like doing things together and telling others what we have been up to. But that should not be the key to your enjoyment, you need to be able to enjoy things on your own also. The pleasure from something fun should be in the doing, and how you feel while you are doing it, not linked to other people.

Nobody can take this away from you either. When you can be complete by yourself, and can enjoy things alone, then you can have good experiences and pleasant memories even in difficult circumstances. You’ll be independent and happier.

Don’t fall into the thinking that being independent is sad or depressing. Just because you can enjoy activities by yourself does not mean that you must always be alone!

Think of it in terms of both, and not either. We can be fully independent and able to enjoy activities on our own, and this allows us to savor our experiences more fully when we do share them with others.

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